perfection? I don't think there is any.
In our society we are set up for failure. We are never pretty enough,
thin enough, dressed right, owning enough nor making enough money.
No matter how hard we try, what route we take, our failures just seem
to pile up.
You look in the mirror and what do you see?
I will tell you what to look for......
There is only one you.
There is only the standards you set.
Only you can accept you as beautiful, perfect and enough.
Another's compliments will never be a substitute for your own from you.
Rather than trying to change you, accept you first.
This means dress the body you have and work with face you have. Stop
trying to change you, enhance you!
Don't be angry and aggressive in your mind thinking, this is me,
accept me. This is the voice of insecurity and rebellion.
Rather go where you feel beautiful and empowered within what you can
afford. Yes, there is a way.
Go to a make up counter and get your make up done. Then go to a drug
store and get educated on similar products and finally go to a place
with a price that suits you.
For clothes go try things on, not to buy, just to try. Think about
how you want to look, what you want to present and observe the world
around you. Don't copy but take a piece or two and add them to you.
No, you may not know how, and you may not be perfect at it but the
care you are taking for you will shine through along with the feeling
of mattering to yourself.
You see, that is the secret. Taking the time to notice you,
compliment you, and put you in your priority list will translate to
you wanting to make time to allow you to feel as beautiful on the
outside as you do on the inside.
It is not our outside we see as icky, fat, old or ugly it is what we
worry about others seeing in us and how we feel inside. We feel icky
and fat, old or ugly and we will feel that is what other's see, there
goes our assumptions again!
We cause our spiral, so again balance is the key here. Yes, we will
have days we don't like our external appearance and also not like all
of ourselves but we can still like the other parts of us, we just need
to allow ourselves to have both.
Have an outfit you can wear on fat days where you still feel you look
beautiful, don't just throw on sweats and be aggressive in your
thoughts. Be gentle with you and take the time you need that day. Be
kind to you.
Each morning take the time to protect your skin and brighten your
eyes, you will feel empowered. No it doesn't need to take alot of
time nor money to do this and it will empower you to live in the
society you have chosen to live in.
Remember, we work of visual cues in this society, this is why we feel
so controlled so take the time to find your middle of the road. Think
of how you want to perceive you and aid you to do that. Stand by you,
take the time to meet you, love you for who you are then enhance what
is already there making it present for the world to see.
First chapter of "From Above with Love ~ Basic Knowledge One" will aid
you in the process of understanding how you see you and how you think
along with how to balance this. It is worth the work.....