- 1.having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be."she strove to be the perfect wife"
Friday, October 10, 2014
Monday, September 8, 2014
where 15 people who do not know each other are going to stay
supposedly in an environment where they can form a new society, but
one of those 15 people is a pastor. Already influenced, but don't kid
yourself, we are all heavily influenced by this society. We think we
are original, but we are not. It is really interesting to see how
these ppl just wanted to talk and be heard, forcefully trying to
impose their thoughts of a utopia, all it created was pure hell and so
much fighting. Think about this, observe, how often through the day
do you feel you need to speak, (fight) and be heard? was it worth it?
did you feel vindicated? When I first started to observe this behavior
in myself and become aware of how often my ego decided I needed to be
right or I soon saw where alot of my stress and hopelessness was
coming from. Did I really need to control so much of my surroundings
and have them know my thoughts? Was I empowering or enabling? what I
learned was there is NOTHING worth fighting for, and the only way I
can healthily effect my environment is by living by example,
(practicing what I preach). Take this week and observe how often you
feel the need to speak out and how your ego has convinced you that you
need to, now just consider if it effects your life the way you want it
to, and go from there. You are your expert and you know what you are
ready or wanting to evolve. Enjoy your day :D AuKeeRa
Thursday, June 19, 2014
fear or a need to defend or fight with in you. It is their insecurity
and their fear, not yours. Stand strong within yourself, respect their
right and choice to be fearful, don't see the fault they're trying to
create and allow yourself to mentally relieve the situation back to
them. Another's drama and fears are never ours unless we choose to
accept them into our own reality.
Now I get this is easier said than done sometimes and often this poke
from another takes us off guard as it comes with so much force
(bullies suck) but if you give yourself a moment to mentally react
without speaking the words you are thinking, then a bit more time to
respond... If you choose to respond at all, you will allow yourself
time to not engage or become fearful (angry) with them.
Most, if not all drama is created by imagined fear. This means our ego
makes a situation appear to be a threat through our assumptions or
past experiences. Then due to our perceived fears ppl then either try
to get others involved in this fear or, because of feeling horrible
and off kilter, try to create fear in others through bullying or
threatening behavior, simply because the ego now believes we are a
victim of our own life.
If you look at the history of creating fear, you will see creating
fear has always been a way to control the masses to maintain power.
So it is no surprise we have made it a seemingly natural part of the
way we interact.
Yes... I know this is a new way to look at things but ponder this
idea. Step back and notice how angry or drama filled ppl are filled
with imagined fear and aid yourself to not take this fear on either by
joining their drama or fighting. Your peace is worth it. #AuKeeRa
Monday, June 2, 2014
It's my bday on June 3rd so I am giving us all a bday present ~ Creating my own reality by AuKeeRa Rayne
Points to remember
Just because I think it does not make it so ~ Passing thoughts, and judgments do not create reality. Constant self-deprecating thoughts create sadness within and make our reality appear bleak. Judgments on others, do not come back on you, they are thoughts. Ego judges everybody.
Law of Attraction ~ Ask – Believe – Receive ~ the most important thing you must remember is NOT to be attached to the outcome. Often with dream boards and other techniques, we are asking for specific items. When you attach to the outcome, you have decided what you have is not good enough. You begin not to appreciate the life you are living now by trying to 'attract' what you think is better.
The theories of dream boards and law of attraction is actually preparation of your brain to show you what you are truly capable of and deserving of. It is not to produce a specific outcome, rather it is to prepare your brain to be able to accept it if it comes your way.
"What the Bleep do we Know" has a scene where the natives could not see the ship in the water because it was nowhere in their comprehension. They watched and soon the ship appeared to them. This is the theory of dream boarding (along with the exercises in the Artist's way). The exercises are to open and expand what you are willing to accept in your life, decide what you are worthy of and then allow it to 'appear' in your world.
We all think that when we change our thoughts we 'attract' better things into our lives. What I would like to propose is the theory that those things are already there and as we feel worthy, we choose to 'see' them and 'accept' them.
When we become attached to the outcome of our thoughts we are unable to live in the here and now. We lack gratitude for what we have and then feel like failures if we don't get what we thought we should have. This does not make for a productive content life full of gratitude.
So where does this leave us?
What I would Love to have in my life
Now take a moment and visualize each one being a part of your life. It is not just writing them down, but actually take the time to think it through. See the job, the good and the bad, the car, good and bad, house, good and bad, children, good and bad, whatever you think you want in your life think of the whole picture for what you may find is what you thought you wanted (once brought out of dream world and into reality) may not be what you want or what you want right now.
Also take the time to review what you perceive as success and why you do.
I see success as
When you have time, examine each ideal and think of the extra expenses that come with them, if they truly bring more contentment into your life, or actually more stress. Even job advancements have found to produce less income due to a tax bracket change, so more money, more work but after taxes less money comes in. Children bring joy but less time. A bigger house may look great but do you need it. Same with the vehicle, are you driving what suits your needs?
Often we live our lives for others and their expectations rather than ourselves because we do not to take the time to figure out what we want, for us. Take the time and ask the questions. If I could do anything, what would I do. Then with gratitude for what you already have, set out to explore your world your way.
Do you love the world you see? If not why? All views have two sides, you can choose to see either one. One is with constant dismay and the other is with constant contentment. Emotion runs between both of them. You wake up in the morning and feel like crap. You now choose to think your day is going to be great or not so great, you decide. You can feel yucky and still see all the good things around you (this is done by being grateful).
Your thoughts actually create the reality you see. We are taught that if we think positively, life becomes positive. This is not totally true. Life is life, BOTH, positive and negative. Thus our thoughts are both positive and negative too. Negative is not bad. Harsh situations, although painful, are not bad. They are experiences and it is up to us to think of them that way in order to accept them rather than turn them into a focus that throws us off our reality.
Drama takes up a lot of our thought process and overtakes our reality. Most people think that our reality is created by the external things in our lives, our jobs, relationships, money, possessions, family, but the truth is our reality is created by the way we THINK.
We decide what we think but most of us don't seem to care. The ego thoughts run ramped, judging, complaining and being down right difficult. We have another thought process too, it is the positive, grateful side of us, but this one takes practice because most of us have never focused on adding new thoughts. Affirmations etc can be added but also allow you to complain. Our reality becomes balanced as we think both positive and negative, while being grateful. These are only thoughts but will change your world.
I just woke up, I feel like crap, I think "thank you" (why I am being grateful? I just woke up, I am alive, warm, I get to eat, I slept on a bed, I am healthy, these are not small truths but ones I take for granted) while I am thinking this I still feel like crap and that is okay. I am tired and I am okay with not quite feeling right but I am also very aware of the fabulous life I have. It is enough.
Realizing what we have is enough, and who we are is enough begins a journey of beauty. We do not need goals to live. Sure set a goal, but do not attach to the outcome ~ ever. People think this will demotivate them but acceptance creates the opposite. I am enough I have enough, takes the fear of failure away. I do what I want because this is my life and I deserve it.
Remember this is all practice, practice, practice. Become aware of what you think. Add in some new thoughts. Accept the life you have as already perfect. See you are perfect as well. This life is already the best life you have ever lived (for it is the only life you have right now)
May you have the best day ever. All my love and hugs, AuKeeRa www.aukeera.com
Thursday, May 22, 2014
Life is so fleeting. Situations can turn in a moment, and with that, life is changed forever or it's over. I wonder why we refuse to enjoy what we have. I get the ego might be responsible for alot of this obstinate behavior but why are we so set on seeing our humanness as a negative. Yes, I know, it has been honed by society for centuries, for the manipulation and control of the masses but really, still? In the year 2014, in all our brilliance (you all know I firmly believe we are all brilliant and equal) we still refuse to be grateful for this limited time on earth and set out to be better, bigger and more than being human. What the *#@&?!! grrrr.....
Yes, sometimes I really do want to scream and jump up and down (thanks ego...lol) and say "Come on! You got this!!" but then I know, somewhere inside we all know this and others don't need me to say this.... you know, not all people want to know they have their solutions.
But yes, you do, you have your own solutions. Yes, I know others tell you, you don't, and you may believe this, but you do.... you really do. And yes! Sure! We all can seek out those professionals in their field and those we admire for their input! Yes! And then take those views and allow yourself to see how you have the knowledge to follow through on your own, and do not need to use another as an aid. We are really good at life.
If you ever need to reach out do, you are not a victim, you are not alone, and you have you. Plus you have all those you are naturally connected too (that happens to be anything energetic, which happens to be everything... pretty cool I'd say)
Do not think you need to stop living to live. We have very few examples of leaders who also were parents and married to look up too and we seem to have none who have found the balance of family, career, faith, finance and self-perception. Sure there is what we see, but then if you look closer, do they have what you would want? I have not seen an example of what I want, but I know what I want, and I have spent my lifetime doing my best to recognize the fact that what I am seeking is always present and therefor does not need to be sought.
I do not believe we should ever stop living to "live". I believe prayer should be practiced constantly, as well as meditation. I believe the peace is found each moment in my mind and in that same moment there is gratitude.
I believe we are not less perfect for being human, and thus the energy we are born of (Christians ~ in the image of God, Atheists ~ why wouldn't we be perfect? science ~ energy just is, and it is both negative and positive but regardless, perfect). I cannot wrap my head around why we would be here to gain more than we are. We are born perfect and we die still perfect. I do not get how just because we are given an ego, we become less, when the ego adds to our humanness, it is not a disability or evil. Sigh.
Many of you have heard me say, "we are not here to learn, we are here to experience." the statement above is why I feel this way. We are here to experience being human for a very finite time. It is a gift. Why oh why can we not get this? Our ego, although a pain in the butt, has allowed us to be a separate, individual, self-existing energy force. That is its purpose, to keep us separate. Thus we cannot let it lead, as the other part of us understands our oneness with all that is in existence. We need both this positive and negative side to be whole.
Now add in our emotions. When we are dead, we have no emotions. Why would we try and stop the ones we call negative? When once we are dead we no longer have them. I don't want to be dead before I am. I want to feel. Yes, any of you who know my past, and me know I have felt some pretty crappy stuff and lived through it all. I am grateful for these extremes. Are they fun? Hell no! But I do not believe they are suffering or I am being punished. It is what it is because it is all meant to be part of the experience of being human!! And I don't want to not feel dead while I am alive.
When I set out my vulnerable self into this world, yes, I feel bombarded. Yes, I want to hide. I am no different than you!! Yes, I sometimes find this world way to noisy and needy and yes, sometimes I feel needy too!!!! I am human. And I know for fact we are all seeking the same thing. To be loved and accepted.
So with all that I have just said it comes down to one simple thing. Give yourself the one thing you seek, acceptance and unconditional love. Look in that mirror and tell yourself everything you wish others would say. Listen to yourself when you are in strife, pain and peril. And most of all, ask you first. Show yourself, that above all, you believe you have the answers you seek. No matter what you believe created this world, you can always believe in one thing, and that of course, is you.
Tuesday, May 20, 2014
In my personal observation I see three main things fueling the ego and
thus destroying the spirit and making us completely ungrateful over
the centuries and in very recent times.
Religion and spirituality. What?! yes. It is the one thing telling us
we are not good enough, in need of fixing and in need another human to
tell us what we need and to fix us. It is the sole reason for most
people's despair and total lack of gratitude as they are not good
enough the way they are for their God, so what they own is not enough
either. (note we often pray for what we think we need or want, rather
than being grateful for what is already there)
Credit. Yup. Financial credit. Originally no one could get credit
unless they could afford to pay it back. This required the population
to prioritize their funds earned and purchase what they felt they
required. This created a great sense of pride and gratitude as people
saw their hard work created the life style they had as well as
everything in it. Now, thanks to credit, people aren't grateful for
what they have as they always want more or better. There is a full
disconnect now between what we earn and what we own due to mainly
credit as well as no longer touching our money (direct deposits and
then debit cards don't give us the tactile experience of seeing the
actual money we have earned, so it might be an idea to use cash to
purchase so you can see and give yourself credit for what you have
earned, saved for and are now buying). If we figure we can't afford it
we buy it anyway thinking we will pay for it later not realizing how
much we end up paying then feeling we are working for nothing. Credit
is really a lose lose, where as earning, saving and living within our
means results in pride and gratitude, if we can ourselves believe it
is enough. Greed, easy credit and the ego is one heck of a spending
And finally, we think electronic communication is excellent and for
some things it really is, but within all this ability of computers and
smart phones, work never stops and communication has been limited to
key strokes, again, good as in supposed productivity and really good
for being able to speak to those you want to more regularity via tx
and email, however, we now have an entire generation who looks down,
literally. Their gratitude for their simple existence seems dissolved.
Look up? put down the device, go for a walk? talk face to face. Be
grateful we still can see, hear, touch, smell? I don't know, maybe I'm
missing the mark, but this is what I see.....
Thanks to this combination, of old religion, new spirituality, credit
and electronics, we now hear constantly of people who don't think life
itself is enough, don't wish to work for their money which pays for
their life and everything in it. We hear people saying do what you
love for work, enjoy your life, yolo, it's not about the money, and so
on while multimedia spread this message at light speed. I hate to tell
you but it is about the money, and the gratitude we have for it, and
even though you only live once, what is life without the gratitude for
every small moment in it?
Life in a first world country is no different than life in a
developing country except the fact not only do we have the means to
earn money, the access to purchase items and the downfall, we have
access to credit. In a developing country, they are forced to live
within what ever financial means they can get. In our first world
existence we don't seem grateful for the simple fact we can earn our
money in the first place, nope, we decide we don't want to earn it and
then further, we want more and aren't grateful at all for what our
earned means can afford to buy because for some unknown reason we have
already decided it is not enough.
I honestly do not know how our society will bring back or ever develop
true gratitude. I will just wait and firmly believe, one day people
will pray to a God they know accepts them as perfect and enough, and
people will know their God supports and believes in them, and always
gives them exactly what they need, not want they want, and the masses
will be grateful. That people will stop incurring debt and decide to
be proud and grateful for their hard work and what they purchased with
their hard earned money, and I firmly believe we will learn again to
be grateful to look up, put down a device that has become an
addiction, returning to the gratitude for the sounds of nature, each
other and the beauty of this world.