Another's fear and drama doesn't need to be ours

Do not succumb to another's fears who chooses to attempt to create
fear or a need to defend or fight with in you. It is their insecurity
and their fear, not yours. Stand strong within yourself, respect their
right and choice to be fearful, don't see the fault they're trying to
create and allow yourself to mentally relieve the situation back to
them. Another's drama and fears are never ours unless we choose to
accept them into our own reality.

Now I get this is easier said than done sometimes and often this poke
from another takes us off guard as it comes with so much force
(bullies suck) but if you give yourself a moment to mentally react
without speaking the words you are thinking, then a bit more time to
respond... If you choose to respond at all, you will allow yourself
time to not engage or become fearful (angry) with them.

Most, if not all drama is created by imagined fear. This means our ego
makes a situation appear to be a threat through our assumptions or
past experiences. Then due to our perceived fears ppl then either try
to get others involved in this fear or, because of feeling horrible
and off kilter, try to create fear in others through bullying or
threatening behavior, simply because the ego now believes we are a
victim of our own life.

If you look at the history of creating fear, you will see creating
fear has always been a way to control the masses to maintain power.
So it is no surprise we have made it a seemingly natural part of the
way we interact.

Yes... I know this is a new way to look at things but ponder this
idea. Step back and notice how angry or drama filled ppl are filled
with imagined fear and aid yourself to not take this fear on either by
joining their drama or fighting. Your peace is worth it. #AuKeeRa

It's my bday on June 3rd so I am giving us all a bday present ~ Creating my own reality by AuKeeRa Rayne

Points to remember

            Just because I think it does not make it so ~ Passing thoughts, and judgments do not create reality.  Constant self-deprecating thoughts create sadness within and make our reality appear bleak.  Judgments on others, do not come back on you, they are thoughts.  Ego judges everybody.

           

            Law of Attraction ~ Ask – Believe – Receive ~ the most important thing you must remember is NOT to be attached to the outcome.  Often with dream boards and other techniques, we are asking for specific items.  When you attach to the outcome, you have decided what you have is not good enough.  You begin not to appreciate the life you are living now by trying to 'attract' what you think is better.

           

            The theories of dream boards and law of attraction is actually preparation of your brain to show you what you are truly capable of and deserving of.  It is not to produce a specific outcome, rather it is to prepare your brain to be able to accept it if it comes your way.

 

            "What the Bleep do we Know" has a scene where the natives could not see the ship in the water because it was nowhere in their comprehension.  They watched and soon the ship appeared to them.  This is the theory of dream boarding (along with the exercises in the Artist's way).  The exercises are to open and expand what you are willing to accept in your life, decide what you are worthy of and then allow it to 'appear' in your world.

 

             We all think that when we change our thoughts we 'attract' better things into our lives.  What I would like to propose is the theory that those things are already there and as we feel worthy, we choose to 'see' them and 'accept' them.

 

            When we become attached to the outcome of our thoughts we are unable to live in the here and now.  We lack gratitude for what we have and then feel like failures if we don't get what we thought we should have.  This does not make for a productive content life full of gratitude.

 

            So where does this leave us?

 

What I would Love to have in my life

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Now take a moment and visualize each one being a part of your life.  It is not just writing them down, but actually take the time to think it through.  See the job, the good and the bad, the car, good and bad, house, good and bad, children, good and bad, whatever you think you want in your life think of the whole picture for what you may find is what you thought you wanted (once brought out of dream world and into reality) may not be what you want or what you want right now.

 

Also take the time to review what you perceive as success and why you do.

I see success as

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When you have time, examine each ideal and think of the extra expenses that come with them, if they truly bring more contentment into your life, or actually more stress.  Even job advancements have found to produce less income due to a tax bracket change, so more money, more work but after taxes less money comes in.  Children bring joy but less time.  A bigger house may look great but do you need it.  Same with the vehicle, are you driving what suits your needs?

            Often we live our lives for others and their expectations rather than ourselves because we do not to take the time to figure out what we want, for us.  Take the time and ask the questions.  If I could do anything, what would I do.  Then with gratitude for what you already have, set out to explore your world your way.

 

Reality perception

            Do you love the world you see?  If not why?  All views have two sides, you can choose to see either one.  One is with constant dismay and the other is with constant contentment.  Emotion runs between both of them.  You wake up in the morning and feel like crap.  You now choose to think your day is going to be great or not so great, you decide.  You can feel yucky and still see all the good things around you (this is done by being grateful).

            Your thoughts actually create the reality you see.   We are taught that if we think positively, life becomes positive.  This is not totally true.  Life is life, BOTH, positive and negative.  Thus our thoughts are both positive and negative too.  Negative is not bad.  Harsh situations, although painful, are not bad.  They are experiences and it is up to us to think of them that way in order to accept them rather than turn them into a focus that throws us off our reality.

            Drama takes up a lot of our thought process and overtakes our reality.  Most people think that our reality is created by the external things in our lives, our jobs, relationships, money, possessions, family, but the truth is our reality is created by the way we THINK.

            We decide what we think but most of us don't seem to care.  The ego thoughts run ramped, judging, complaining and being down right difficult. We have another thought process too, it is the positive, grateful side of us, but this one takes practice because most of us have never focused on adding new thoughts.  Affirmations etc can be added but also allow you to complain.  Our reality becomes balanced as we think both positive and negative, while being grateful.  These are only thoughts but will change your world.

            I just woke up, I feel like crap, I think "thank you" (why I am being grateful? I just woke up, I am alive, warm, I get to eat, I slept on a bed, I am healthy, these are not small truths but ones I take for granted)  while I am thinking this I still feel like crap and that is okay.  I am tired and I am okay with not quite feeling right but I am also very aware of the fabulous life I have.  It is enough.

            Realizing what we have is enough, and who we are is enough begins a journey of beauty.  We do not need goals to live.  Sure set a goal, but do not attach to the outcome ~ ever.  People think this will demotivate them but acceptance creates the opposite.  I am enough I have enough, takes the fear of failure away.  I do what I want because this is my life and I deserve it.

            Remember this is all practice, practice, practice.  Become aware of what you think.  Add in some new thoughts.  Accept the life you have as already perfect.  See you are perfect as well.  This life is already the best life you have ever lived (for it is the only life you have right now)

May you have the best day ever.  All my love and hugs, AuKeeRa www.aukeera.com

Life is so fleeting

Life is so fleeting. Situations can turn in a moment, and with that, life is changed forever or it's over. I wonder why we refuse to enjoy what we have.  I get the ego might be responsible for alot of this obstinate behavior but why are we so set on seeing our humanness as a negative.  Yes, I know, it has been honed by society for centuries, for the manipulation and control of the masses but really, still? In the year 2014, in all our brilliance (you all know I firmly believe we are all brilliant and equal) we still refuse to be grateful for this limited time on earth and set out to be better, bigger and more than being human.  What the *#@&?!! grrrr.....

 

Yes, sometimes I really do want to scream and jump up and down (thanks ego...lol) and say "Come on! You got this!!" but then I know, somewhere inside we all know this and others don't need me to say this.... you know, not all people want to know they have their solutions.

 

But yes, you do, you have your own solutions.  Yes, I know others tell you, you don't, and you may believe this, but you do.... you really do.  And yes! Sure! We all can seek out those professionals in their field and those we admire for their input! Yes! And then take those views and allow yourself to see how you have the knowledge to follow through on your own, and do not need to use another as an aid.  We are really good at life. 

 

If you ever need to reach out do, you are not a victim, you are not alone, and you have you.  Plus you have all those you are naturally connected too (that happens to be anything energetic, which happens to be everything... pretty cool I'd say)

 

Do not think you need to stop living to live.  We have very few examples of leaders who also were parents and married to look up too and we seem to have none who have found the balance of family, career, faith, finance and self-perception.  Sure there is what we see, but then if you look closer, do they have what you would want? I have not seen an example of what I want, but I know what I want, and I have spent my lifetime doing my best to recognize the fact that what I am seeking is always present and therefor does not need to be sought.

 

I do not believe we should ever stop living to "live".  I believe prayer should be practiced constantly, as well as meditation.  I believe the peace is found each moment in my mind and in that same moment there is gratitude.

 

I believe we are not less perfect for being human, and thus the energy we are born of (Christians ~ in the image of God, Atheists ~ why wouldn't we be perfect? science ~ energy just is, and it is both negative and positive but regardless, perfect). I cannot wrap my head around why we would be here to gain more than we are.  We are born perfect and we die still perfect.  I do not get how just because we are given an ego, we become less, when the ego adds to our humanness, it is not a disability or evil.  Sigh. 

 

Many of you have heard me say, "we are not here to learn, we are here to experience." the statement above is why I feel this way.  We are here to experience being human for a very finite time.  It is a gift.  Why oh why can we not get this? Our ego, although a pain in the butt, has allowed us to be a separate, individual, self-existing energy force.  That is its purpose, to keep us separate.  Thus we cannot let it lead, as the other part of us understands our oneness with all that is in existence.  We need both this positive and negative side to be whole.

 

Now add in our emotions.  When we are dead, we have no emotions. Why would we try and stop the ones we call negative? When once we are dead we no longer have them. I don't want to be dead before I am.  I want to feel.  Yes, any of you who know my past, and me know I have felt some pretty crappy stuff and lived through it all.  I am grateful for these extremes.  Are they fun? Hell no! But I do not believe they are suffering or I am being punished.  It is what it is because it is all meant to be part of the experience of being human!! And I don't want to not feel dead while I am alive.

 

When I set out my vulnerable self into this world, yes, I feel bombarded.  Yes, I want to hide.  I am no different than you!! Yes, I sometimes find this world way to noisy and needy and yes, sometimes I feel needy too!!!! I am human.  And I know for fact we are all seeking the same thing.  To be loved and accepted.

 

So with all that I have just said it comes down to one simple thing. Give yourself the one thing you seek, acceptance and unconditional love. Look in that mirror and tell yourself everything you wish others would say. Listen to yourself when you are in strife, pain and peril. And most of all, ask you first. Show yourself, that above all, you believe you have the answers you seek. No matter what you believe created this world, you can always believe in one thing, and that of course, is you.

AuKeeRa Rayne

www.aukeera.com

The demise of gratitude ~ Religion/sprituality, credit & electronics ~ my personal observation

In my personal observation I see three main things fueling the ego and
thus destroying the spirit and making us completely ungrateful over
the centuries and in very recent times.
     Religion and spirituality. What?! yes. It is the one thing telling us
we are not good enough, in need of fixing and in need another human to
tell us what we need and to fix us. It is the sole reason for most
people's despair and total lack of gratitude as they are not good
enough the way they are for their God, so what they own is not enough
either. (note we often pray for what we think we need or want, rather
than being grateful for what is already there)
     Credit. Yup. Financial credit. Originally no one could get credit
unless they could afford to pay it back. This required the population
to prioritize their funds earned and purchase what they felt they
required. This created a great sense of pride and gratitude as people
saw their hard work created the life style they had as well as
everything in it. Now, thanks to credit, people aren't grateful for
what they have as they always want more or better. There is a full
disconnect now between what we earn and what we own due to mainly
credit as well as no longer touching our money (direct deposits and
then debit cards don't give us the tactile experience of seeing the
actual money we have earned, so it might be an idea to use cash to
purchase so you can see and give yourself credit for what you have
earned, saved for and are now buying). If we figure we can't afford it
we buy it anyway thinking we will pay for it later not realizing how
much we end up paying then feeling we are working for nothing. Credit
is really a lose lose, where as earning, saving and living within our
means results in pride and gratitude, if we can ourselves believe it
is enough. Greed, easy credit and the ego is one heck of a spending
combination.
And finally, we think electronic communication is excellent and for
some things it really is, but within all this ability of computers and
smart phones, work never stops and communication has been limited to
key strokes, again, good as in supposed productivity and really good
for being able to speak to those you want to more regularity via tx
and email, however, we now have an entire generation who looks down,
literally. Their gratitude for their simple existence seems dissolved.
Look up? put down the device, go for a walk? talk face to face. Be
grateful we still can see, hear, touch, smell? I don't know, maybe I'm
missing the mark, but this is what I see.....
Thanks to this combination, of old religion, new spirituality, credit
and electronics, we now hear constantly of people who don't think life
itself is enough, don't wish to work for their money which pays for
their life and everything in it. We hear people saying do what you
love for work, enjoy your life, yolo, it's not about the money, and so
on while multimedia spread this message at light speed. I hate to tell
you but it is about the money, and the gratitude we have for it, and
even though you only live once, what is life without the gratitude for
every small moment in it?
Life in a first world country is no different than life in a
developing country except the fact not only do we have the means to
earn money, the access to purchase items and the downfall, we have
access to credit. In a developing country, they are forced to live
within what ever financial means they can get. In our first world
existence we don't seem grateful for the simple fact we can earn our
money in the first place, nope, we decide we don't want to earn it and
then further, we want more and aren't grateful at all for what our
earned means can afford to buy because for some unknown reason we have
already decided it is not enough.
I honestly do not know how our society will bring back or ever develop
true gratitude. I will just wait and firmly believe, one day people
will pray to a God they know accepts them as perfect and enough, and
people will know their God supports and believes in them, and always
gives them exactly what they need, not want they want, and the masses
will be grateful. That people will stop incurring debt and decide to
be proud and grateful for their hard work and what they purchased with
their hard earned money, and I firmly believe we will learn again to
be grateful to look up, put down a device that has become an
addiction, returning to the gratitude for the sounds of nature, each
other and the beauty of this world.
AuKeeRa Rayne
www.aukeera.com

Christmas Stress

Ah yes, it is here again and so is the stress that goes along with it.

Let's go over some ground rules okay?

This holiday is NOT about the presents, we all know this then guilt
the heck out of ourselves for not spending enough. Stop it.

Buy your kids only one present each.
Do you realize kids get so many things they no longer
treasure that one special xmas gift?

Set a gift budget and stick to it. Why?
January comes and do you still want to be paying for
everyone's gifts?
Those you love, speak to, set a budget with them too
those who love you, just want you and I am sure you don't
expect or want anything in the way of gifts from them either.
Food and hugs always best.

The xmas party..... oh my

Hosting ~ you as the host must come first (yes, I know, I stress too)
so make it easy on you. Drink in hand, prepare a meal that DOES NOT
STRESS YOU!!! remember xmas is for the visiting and if you
are stressed, trust me, you will not have fun.

Use paper plates, if anyone is there to judge, let them.

Let family and friends bring for the meal. You make the main dish and
let them bring something to add. But they are flying in? then enlist
their help. yes, I mean it. And yes, I know it is hard, I get it
but if you get stuck doing everything, you will just want it all to be
over, what kind of xmas is that?

Difficult family
There is only one rule here. Treat them with the kindness
of strangers. Trust me, I get it, I hear you and I understand Christmas
family stress, more than you will ever know. However, it
is one day, or one week, we can do this, after all, deep down we love
them regardless of what has gone on.
So for this time, just be your kind self, allow things to go easy, trust me, ppl know exactly
what is going on, we don't have to point it out.

With all that said, please enjoy your holiday, know the memories are
worth it when the memories don't include your memories of stress.

xoxo AuKeeRa

Bullying ~ one solution

Parents want to stop bullying. We all do... So when does the open and
honest dialogue begin about how bullying begins? Everyday people
berate and bully themselves in their heads. Not policing their
thoughts one but. Then they all cry out when they hear younger
generations torture others verbally with words.

How are those words different from those we as adults say to ourselves?

When does this society learn that what we think of ourselves we
inadvertently pass onto younger generations?

When will the adults of this world take responsibility for thinking
the way they'd like to see others in the younger generations act?

Your thoughts are the key to end bullying. The thoughts you decide to
give yourself rather than the ones you hear from yourself each and
every moment of each day.

You disagree? Tell me honestly if you like yourself enough to walk
away from a fight of any kind.

You think you have to stand up for yourself or teach someone they are
wrong. Why?

This is what we are teaching out younger generations. Not to be
accepting but to be right and furthermore to win or 'be on top' or 'be
the best'.

Why do we think this will take the world in a direction of
synchronicity? Has it done that for you?

What would your world be like if you accepted yourself. Just the way
you were, are and will be. Would that one thought of acceptance enable
you to accept others rather than trying to save, change or argue with
them?

Would that one thought of self-acceptance not teach other generations
to accept themselves so they too may accept others?

Change does not occur from fighting. Change comes from knowing we are
enough and deserve to have it all, just as all others do, while not
deciding what another's 'having it all' looks like to them.

Change to bullying and all the craziness in this world starts with one
thing and one thing alone. You accepting you and knowing you are
enough a d being brave enough to tell yourself that each day and
choosing to believe it.

Will we as a society understand the change our personal self-
acceptance can make? I don't know.

People prefer to be self-loathing and self-victimizing, while feeling
we cannot all be equal or that makes us less somehow, and we must find
success before anyone else!

Now add in a world that supports our self destructive thinking with
the religions say we are born sinners (unlovable or imperfect yet the
Bible states we are created in God's image) now the latest
spirituality trend decides we all need fixing (we are born sprit then
die returning to spirit, being human does not make us less) and on top
of all that, our society has us believing success requires us to be in
financial debt so we sink ourselves financially to succeed. Our whole
society is based on spend more save more! That makes no sense. We are
taught we NEED things that are only wants. We are also taught now to
live way beyond our means so no one will think we are not successful.
This trend is only twenty years old when we joined America's lead by
spending more than we make and now our seniors have joined this trend.
When we are in debt we feel horrible about ourselves and we feel
victimized and resentful forgetting we chose the things we purchased
due to pressure we believe is real.

So I honestly don't know if people are able to find self-acceptance
for themselves. Everything in this world has made it appear that we
should not accept ourselves with a plethora of reasons why we suck.

This generation comes along and all of a sudden we wonder why people
and kids bully. All the blame gets placed on actions and no one yet
has though where this behavior is started and perpetuated.

As long as we all choose to only bully ourselves each day and not
balance those thoughts with self-acceptance we are not practicing the
change we hope to see. Self-acceptance does not come with accolades or
praise in fact it after comes with frustration of 'always being the
bigger person' or 'how come I'm living in integrity when no one else
seems to be'?! This is why very few choose to accept themselves as
enough.

Once we open this door and truly believe it will you suddenly be rich
with everything you've ever wanted? No. Life will still give you
experiences requiring your full range of human emotions, something
that can only happen when you are alive. So why accept myself? It'll
just make me lazy (when we are lazy it's usually because fear
failing). It'll make me narcissistic! (Actually the state human beings
live in now is already narcissistic. When we believe we can save
others or that others 'need us' it's out ego telling us we are better
than them. We are not. Self-acceptance allows us to step back and
empower others... And our children with a loving thought of "I know
you can make it through this. I believe in you.")

No one is saying you have to as remember, self-acceptance really seems
to have no pay off and for your ego it doesn't. So I'm sure most who
read this will simply make excuses why they can't rather than adding a
thought of self acceptance to their daily existence such as "I'm proud
of you", "I love you", "you are enough" as it's just the way we are
raised and aided by the society we are living in.

But I can tell you, each and every moment of each and everyday I will
look in that mirror and tell that girl I love her, how beautiful she
is, how much I accept her and in turn each person I say it to will for
a glimmer see it in themselves as I see this in me. And furthermore my
child will learn why he is enough, how to balance self individuals
with self acceptance, how to walk out in this world amongst all the
bullies, stupidity and cruelty while still being able to see the value
of his human existence and everyone else's as well.

I ask you share this if you believe in it. Do not change my words or
erase my name, for unless you practice though of self-acceptance the
concept is truly not an easy one to explain.

It is my hope that one day you will look in the mirror and see the
perfection and beauty I see in each person I meet and in turn you will
be able, once you accept yourself as enough, begin to see your life
and everyone in it, not as a threat but also as enough. There would be
no more room for bullies in a society, as they would only be fighting
with themselves. This simple yet seemingly difficult concept is truly
the only way to stop bullying in our children, our work places and in
generations to come.

Please share if it feels right, and add in one thought today. Do not
look for outward support as only you can find this love for you. No
one can make you accept you; this journey is yours and yours alone.
You are enough you can do this.

AuKeeRa Rayne

Society has got this one wrong ~ self focus is NOT selfish

"I do everything for those I love. I love to help"

These words are suppose to make us nice people but what these words
really do is create resentment when we live serving all those around
us while waiting for someone to treat us the way we are treating the.

The huge myth is that nice people, humble people, do nothing for
themselves and everything for others.
If you truly wish to be someone who cares for those around you then
you cannot run double standards treating yourself less than those you
treat around you. If you do this, you will empty your well, become
exhausted, and then often resentful as you watch yourself do nice
things and everything for others while no one does anything for you.

Assertive and self assured people have learned they have to ask
themselves what they need, provide them and keep doing so BEFORE they
provide those things to others.

There are many people in life who do not wish to take care of
themselves mentally (or physically or financially) and there are so
many 'nice people' ready to stand in and 'help'. This is not help and
this action is selfish. When we help others thinking they are unable
to do it for themselves we are being selfish. Somehow we have given
ourselves the belief that the other person 'NEEDS' us, and this feeds
are ego, so there for it is selfish. Yes, this is the exact opposite
as we have been taught.

If you give yourself everything you need (monetary, mentally,
physically) you will have the overflow to give to others, and you will
not need to think "should I?" or "I don't want to but I know I
should?" anymore for you will know, you can give without being
exhausted, resentful or broke. You will realize That just running out
and agreeing the person needs help often becomes enabling and we all
know we would rather be empowered (except for the person used to
everything being done for them....)

Same with the advice we give, all our friends and family is doing what
is best for them. Careful, even when asked what you say... or ask for
that matter. Our opinions should empower our partner, friends or
family to find their own way, their way with just a different view if
asked for by us. Our words should not confuse them nor ever come from
a condescending place. We are all equal.

And because we are all equal is why we do not NEED each other, but it
is so nice to HAVE each other. Having is a choice, needing comes from
a place of ego and fear. All we need is always provided and there for
us, what we need is just in our minds and when another person jumps in
or feels obligated to fulfill that need, that person needs to realize
this is an action of ego, not charity.

Yes, we can give but when we give of our overflow we actually HAVE the
money to give (no personal debt or needing groceries ourselves), time
(we are already giving time needed to ourselves, family, and friends).

Look at you. You gorgeous, incredible, successful human being. Look
in the mirror and see what a great job you have done, yes, you. Do
for you what you do for your friends everyday, you've had enough
practice so I guess you already know how to right? You know all the
wonderful things you say to your friends, kids and family..... how
proud you are of them? I think you should say those words to you, and
feel proud of yourself too. No ore double standards, no treating
others better than you treat yourself... okay?


Take the time to observe your life, just think about it okay? Observe
you running, feeling out of sorts, never feeling you have enough time
or money, along with the thoughts you are thinking while all this is
happening. Are you being mean to you, telling you to hurry up, that
you are stupid, that you do everything wrong? Just observe and take
the time to hear what you are thinking.

Then add one (yes, only one) thought. I am enough or I am proud of
you or everything is right in my life.

Then think that thought over and over and over while your ego tries to
mentally obliterate you and your life seems to want to swallow you up!

Over time, and through observation (remembering it took you years to
get to where you are now) keep showing yourself what is out of balance
and find solutions that will aid you. There are solutions, but you
have to allow yourself to not decide what will do wrong before you
even try them and you will have to realize that fulfilling you does
and will always allow you to help, if need be and realize when to step
back and you will always have what is needed in order to give that
help if and when it is necessary and even better, you will have now
learned who you want in your life, what you want in your life and that
YOU can also ask for help from those you 'trust' with this incredible
you.

We are all equal, we all are enough..... just the way we are, and
things can always only get better :D